The Power of Confession in Marriage
April 5, 2018 • Marriage • By Joanna Teigen
You can feel the distance between you. You find yourself annoyed by every little thing. Sarcastic remarks are whispered under your breath. You avoid eye contact. Distraction is sought through work and busyness. You sleep with your back turned, as close to the edge of the bed as you can get. Your mind replays old fights and imagines the perfect comeback you wish you’d spoken. You wonder if you’ll ever feel close again.
The wall is thick between you. No one is willing to tear down the first brick to come together. But the truth is, you hold a weighty sledgehammer in your hand. Use the power of confession to break through to one another again.
- Confession invites truth into your marriage. It declares, “This was the destructive choice I made. This was my selfish motive. This is how I hurt you. This is why it was wrong.” Confession lays you bare as you name your failure and take responsibility for the outcome. No minimizing. No excuses. No lies.
- Confession opens the door to reconciliation. It builds trust. It asks for mercy. It says, “I hurt because I hurt you.” It allows your wounded loved one to feel seen and understood. It shows resolve to choose a better way going forward. It lets in a spark of hope so you can rekindle your love.
- Confession brings healing. When met with grace, it restores the relationship. Confession puts things right with God. It puts the past behind you. It moves you toward the beautiful oneness God created you to experience.
Today, humble your hearts and offer confession and forgiveness to one another. Find freedom from guilt, shame, and regret. Receive compassion in each other’s arms. Let God make your marriage whole again.