Episode 122: How to Restore Your Marriage When Hope Feels Lost—with Lindsey Maestas
As we settle into the heart of winter, the world outside our windows carries an unmistakable chill. Unfortunately, during this time of the year, many couples can start to feel like matters inside their household are growing cold, too. Did you know that January is also known as “divorce month” because a surge of separations occur around this time?
If this resonates with you, you may have felt the tension intensify in your relationship this past holiday season. Perhaps you felt miles apart from your spouse, and you are losing the hope or motivation to try to find your way back to one another again. If you are in a place of hurt or discouragement today, this episode is for you!
Our guest knows a thing or two about navigating the frigid seasons a marriage can encounter. Lindsey Maestas is a relationship expert, writer, speaker, and the creator of The Wife Project, an incredibly popular course that has impacted thousands of marriages. She is also the author of the amazing new book, Don’t Burn Your Own House Down, which guides readers on how to build a marriage that lasts.
In this episode, Lindsey shares:
- How the little moments can make a BIG difference
- Steps you can take today to restore your marriage
- How “tech interference” can create division
- And much more!
We hope you enjoy this conversation!
Links:
- [BOOK] Don’t Burn Your Own House Down
- The Living Easy Podcast
- [BOOK] Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
- Connect with Lindsey on her website or Instagram
Our Takeaways:
1) It takes hard, holy, heart-work to keep a marriage going. Great marriages don’t happen by accident. They take effort and intentional work. This could mean being more attentive to how our spouse receives love—knowing their preferences and what makes them feel appreciated. It’s an ongoing choice to love our spouse and to work at our marriage each day.
2) Learn how to speak your spouse’s language. Often in marriage, we default to doing what comes naturally to us. So while one person may show love by helping with the pile of dirty dishes, what speaks love for their spouse might actually be quality time together. This is why it’s important to learn what speaks love to your spouse. For more resources on love languages, check out this past episode with Gary Chapman, the creator behind the Five Love Languages.
3) It’s important to cultivate a life outside of our spouse. Our spouse cannot be all things for us. Yes, it’s true that they will be a huge part of your life and even one of the people who knows you most intimately. However, they are still human. Our spouses will fail us, just as we will fail them. This is why it’s important to prioritize your relationship with Jesus first and foremost. On top of that, it’s very healthy to cultivate individual relationships with our friends, to nourish our bonds with family members, and to enjoy our own hobbies.
Meet Our Guest
Lindsey Maestas is a relationship expert, writer, speaker, and the creator of The Wife Project, an incredibly popular marriage course that has impacted thousands of marriages. She is also the author of the amazing new book, Don’t Burn Your Own House Down, which guides readers on how to build a marriage that lasts. Lindsey lives in Tennessee with her husband, Jesse, their two sons, and their sweet puppies, Milo and Biscuit.
