Do you ever feel disappointed or discouraged in your marriage? As wives, I (Joanna) know we want to know how to bring life to our marriages when we’re losing hope. I know so many women, despite their love for their husbands, feel discouraged in their marriages. Their husbands may seem distant and like he doesn’t want to work on a close relationship, or the communication has broken down, and they find themselves often in conflict. Can you relate?
Today, I am having a conversation with Estrella Rogers, a licensed counselor, author, speaker, and founder of Star Level Coaching, where she coaches couples to build strong and lasting relationships. She is also a wife and a mom that has experienced the power of prayer in her own family. Listen in as Estrella shares how wives can encourage, pray, and love their husbands through life’s challenges.
Estrella shares with us:
- What to do when you “hit a wall” in your marriage
- The power of praying for your husband
- How to be supportive when it feels like you can’t fix the circumstances
- The importance of self-evaluation
- And more!
We hope you enjoy this conversation!
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1) You need to pray for your husband. I can’t express how powerful prayer is for your marriage, and I would encourage you to commit to praying for your husband. You may even consider praying for him for 30-days as Estrella did, or maybe longer! As you pray, write your prayers down and pray for every part of him, from the top of his head to the soles of his feet.
2) Pay attention to bids for connection. There are many ways we can connect with our spouses. A bid for connection is an attempt from your spouse to get affirmation, affection, or a positive connection. While you may think your husband doesn’t want to connect, you may just be missing his bids. Anytime he talks about a sports team he likes or asks if you’ve noticed the new restaurant that popped up, those are all bids to connect with you! It may not seem like they are about anything important, but paying attention to these small things helps build connection and shows that he is important enough to have your full attention.
3) Strive to understand without getting defensive. It’s easy to get defensive when your husband says something like, “You just aren’t fun anymore.” But instead of getting defensive, we encourage you to ask for clarity. You may be surprised to discover that you have different definitions of “fun.” It’s important to create a safe space where both of you can communicate your needs without feeling attacked.
Meet Our Guest
Estrella Rogers is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for 10 years, an author, speaker, and coach. She founded Star Level Coaching which helps couples enhance communication, emotional connection, and intimacy so they can enjoy lasting happiness. Estrella is a “bleacher mom” and wife of over 14 years in Jacksonville, NC.